March was not necessarily a “lucky” one for us. We were in the 2nd week of the month when I got a phone call from the school that every parent fears when they drop their child off at school; telling me that “Paisley has fallen, she is hurt and is inconsolable. Her leg doesn’t look right, it is curved in and we think she needs to get an x-ray.”
Prior to this phone call I had left my husband at home battling some sort of stomach virus that kept him home from work (he rarely stays home from work, so when it happens I know he is sick!) and rushed Brantley and I to my monthly Mom’s group/St. Gerard Guild meeting. I left that meeting promptly to pick up my inconsolable little girl and proceeded to take her to the nearest doctors office. The x-ray confirmed that her leg was indeed broken and it was recommended that we go to the Children’s Hospital emergency room. I rushed to get Brantley settled at home with my Mom and Paisley to the hospital. I forgot the x-ray disc in the process and my husband, in his not so great state, drove it out to me and then stayed (he had started to feel better and I was so glad because I am not sure I could have endured the whole day there without some support!). They concluded in the ER that she would need a reduction, which includes sedation, to move the bones back to a better place for correct alignment and healing. Since I had Paisley eat some food (it wasn’t much, but it was a little) on the way to the hospital, we had to wait until that evening in a short stay room at the hospital. It was a long day and I have so much empathy for parents that have to do this with their children due to conditions or diseases that send them to the hospital often. I was relieved, but also anxious when we left the hospital with a groggy, “out of it” 5 year old and her brand new, bright pink cast.
It has been a struggle some days and a learning process to figure out how to rework our routine and attitudes with this new “road block” if you will. It didn’t help that a few days later, Brantley got sick with, what I assume, was the stomach virus Seth had had a few days prior. It didn’t take but a day and both Paisley and I had it too. Needless to say it has been a rough month.
My goals may reflect our struggles as we were definitely thrown into survival mode yet again and my focus became getting through the day with the basics covered.
I was reminded of a quote that I have always found helpful: “It isn’t the cards you are dealt in life, but how you play the hand.” -Randy Pausch So true even in certain situations and life events.
How do we move forward when life hits us hard?
Do we let ourselves react with our feelings or do we take a deep breath, gather ourselves and move forward with grace?
It is tough, but moving forward with grace is a strong testament to our character and perseverance for the future.
I like to think we dealt with the cards fairly well….there wasn’t much else we could do; there were hard times and a few break downs, but we made it through. We are looking forward to Paisley getting her cast off this month and any prayers for healing, strength as she starts to “move” again (and peace for this nervous mama) are very much appreciated!
So here is a recap of my March goals : (If you want to read my original March goals post click here.)
Schedule and plan a Fun Family Day in March! We are not sure of exactly when or what we are going to do….we are thinking Friday March 18th because Paisley has off from school (and then Seth can possibly take off from work)…and we have a few different ideas of what to do but haven’t narrowed it down yet…stay tuned!–Yes we were able to have a family day! Our plans were to go out somewhere like the Children’s Museum, but because of Paisley’s recent broken leg we opted for an at home family day of coloring Easter eggs and then we also made resurrection rolls the next weekend and watched out favorite Easter Veggie Tales! Make “Lucky” 4 leaf clovers for each of the kids with why I am ‘lucky’ to have them in my life. This is my special note to them this month…I will post pictures next month in the recap!Yes I was able to make these special notes! Check out the picture!
- Make felt boards for the kids and hang them in the play room. This has been a project I have been wanting to do for awhile…it will be my first DIY post on the blog also! 🙂 No this did not happen….maybe this month? I will do it here eventually, it is one of those things that is not a priority so gets taken off when survival mode hits. 😉
- Extra- Attend Good Friday mass together as a family. (and possibly Holy Thursday…) No we did not make it to mass on Good Friday 🙁 Seth ended up having a work event and then I got sick that evening also so it didn’t happen. We tried to make Holy Week special at home by making sacrifices, praying and talking about it with the kids. I am hoping of making Holy Week masses happen next year…
Go on a date night/day with Seth. He plans this month! (We are going this Saturday on a day date!) 🙂Yes! Prior to our other unlucky events last month we were able to head out for a lunch and shopping date! Seth had saved some of his quarterly bonus to purchase some much needed (and deserved!) clothes and shoes for himself! We enjoyed the warmer weather that day at the local outlet mall! Make Seth a “Lucky” 4 leaf clover and write the reasons I am lucky to have him in my life. This is my special note to him this month. <3Yes! I made his clover at the same time I made the kids’ clovers! 🙂
- Follow through on ‘connecting time’ in the evenings…at least 2-3 times/week make a “date” to watch tv, have a drink or chat….and no phones during this time! I am changing this goal a bit to make it more doable and work with the season of life we are in right now….Brantley still takes awhile to put down so it makes for a late night sometimes….although we have moved dinner time up so now bedtime is getting earlier too! Yes and no….this became easier this month after we all were well again! Although some nights still require a longer time to put Brantley down…we finally seem to be in a routine now that we are in April….see April goals for more clarification on where we are heading with this goal!
Start a new work-out program at home! My goal this first month is 4-5 workouts/week. I am excited to start this new adventure 🙂 It was getting so hard to leave the house at the times the classes were offered at the Jazzercise center, although I loved it when I got there it was hectic to be gone and for the length of time that it was…so I ordered a program that I can do shorter workouts but maybe more often each week…and I can make my workouts fit my schedule instead of making my schedule fit the workouts!Yes! I started to work out at home with a set of Beachbody DVD’s. I did not start as soon last month as I would have liked, but toward the end of the month I was able to start ‘getting my fitness back on’ and it feels good to move again (and make it fit in my schedule!)
- Drink 6 or more glasses of water/day and try at least one “clean eating” recipe each week. Along with this work out program I ordered comes a lot of instruction on clean eating and nutrition. I know myself well enough to know that I would totally stress out if I tried to change all our eating right away so I am going to slowly ease into it with one recipe a week. 🙂 No and Yes….I usually can only get 5 glasses in… :-/ but I have been making at least one clean eating recipe a week…actually some weeks it has been more than one and I also have been eating more “clean” for breakfast and lunch as well!
Finish the “Becoming More” book and bible study (this week!) and continue to read “Simply Tuesday” by Emily Freeman.Yes! I finished the book and bible study and am still reading Simply Tuesday…both are amazing books that I have/am soaking in all the ‘good stuff’ that I can from….my plan is to write a reading post soon- stay tuned!
- Extra- Attend confession sometime before Easter. No…this did not happen. It seemed that life was pretty chaotic at the time right before Easter…I still plan on going, but I have not yet.
- Continue to work on a more manageable cleaning schedule and system. I think I am making some headway with this goal and am hoping next month to be writing a post about what works for me and maybe some ideas so others can benefit also!Yes and no….some weeks have been better than others, but the ‘other’ weeks I was doing good to just get food on the table and laundry done…continuing on this goal…I did order a book that I think will help to put me in the right place with the balance of managing a home and a momma’s heart…written to reflect Mary and Martha…my plan is to post about it here in the next few months!
- Clear the remaining items/clutter from the basement….sell and/or donate items.Yes and no….some of it is still there, but I did sell a few things and also donate. This month I am donating whatever is left down there!
Collect all of the documents and papers needed to get our taxes done…contact our tax guy to make an apt and get the ball rolling with getting them done. I have called and we are heading in there Saturday morning before our date….it is always a good feeling to drop all of it off and be done with it!Yes! We got all of our papers collected and turned in plus our taxes are done and that is always a huge relief! Continuing- Save the rest of the money needed to pay for our new windows and window installation in cash. We are getting all new windows and sliding glass door in April so we would like to be done saving by the end of March!Yes! We were able to save all the money needed for all the windows and the sliding glass door! We are actually in the midst of the installation right now! I am planning on writing a post on how we were able to save the money needed to pay cash for all new windows in our house soon!
Start a facebook page and an Instagram account for the blog.Yes! Mommy Happiness now has a facebook page and an Instagram profile! The blog has links to the pages…click below or on the home page to see the social icons that will take you to those sites! Like and follow me there! I share and give other encouragement through those sites everyday!!
- Go through the e books I have printed; organize them, read at least 2 and implement what I can at this time. No I have not done this…..
- Work on the SEO plug-in for the blog and update my older posts.No I have not done this either, but I need to….
- Extra- If I have time this month: Read “Money Making Mom” by Crystal Paine.No, extra time wasn’t really available last month….
And here are my April Goals (you will notice I kept it to 3 smaller, more attainable goals for each priority area….I am trying to break up with ‘busy’ and so I am giving myself more breathing room this month!):
- Schedule and plan a Family Day in April! We aren’t sure yet what we are going to do or when we are going to do it just yet, but looking at the calendar this week!
- Organize the school papers and photos in the basement. Since simplifying and de-cluttering our work room in the basement, I have piles of papers that need to be organized. This will be my Simplify project this month!
- Write/create special loves notes for the kids. I love coming up with fun creative ways to let them know how much I care about them….stay tuned for what I do this month! 🙂
- Schedule and plan a date night out this month! It is my month to plan and we are heading out this Friday to dinner and a concert! We are able to get tickets to a local arena through Seth’s work that has a company box there, so we scored free tickets to the Toby Mac concert! We thought dinner before would be fun too! (Follow me on Instagram and Facebook for pics and current updates!)
- Have a weekly date night in! We used to do this when Paisley was a baby and then it just sort of stopped….since it seems the kids are going to bed a little earlier (and easier?!-fingers crossed!) than this has become more possible. We love watching “Fixer Upper” together and having a glass of wine so Tuesday night ‘date night in’ it is!
- Write/create a special love note for Seth. This is Seth’s birthday month so trying to be extra creative with this one! 😉
- Work out 4-5 times per week and get 5-6 glasses of water per day. I have started working out at home and this has helped me to work out more consistently. It can still be a challenge, but it is working better for us at this time!
- Apply J.O.Y to my daily planning. I tend to say yes to many commitments and expectations of myself that end up leaving me overwhelmed and tired. I am trying to focus on the 3 main aspects of JOY- Jesus, Others, Yourself and in applying this to my plan each day.
- Finish reading Simply Tuesday and start 5 Habits of a Woman Who Doesn’t Quit reading/study. In looking at my daily plan and J.O.Y, I am trying to make sure part of the ‘yourself’ is reading time so I can read these amazing books and share them with all of you!
- Pay 1/3-1/2 of the remaining school loan debt that is left. We are determined to pay off all of our non mortgage debt by year’s end….we would be done with this debt if we did not have the recent window project, but when Murphy calls….
- Clear ALL basement clutter. Again since the de-cluttering of the work room in the basement, many of the items are still sitting in the basement in piles. I am trying to sell some of it, but if it is not sold by the end of the month, it is getting donated.
- Plan and cook at least one “clean-eating” meal per week. Since starting my at-home workouts I have been motivated to try more healthy options for our family. I am easing into it and trying new recipes…most have been hits, with a few misses. It is fun to try out new things!
- Set up a ‘social media’ time for the blog. These are times that I check my social media account and schedule posts, etc. I have found this eats up some of my already full day, so having time set aside for this will help me.
- Start a Pinterest account/board for the blog and possibly Twitter. I am hesistant to add more social media for the time aspect, but I know it is great for reaching more people. So I am for sure going to get on Pinterest and at least looking into Twitter.
- Organize and start reading business e-books. I want to go through the ones I have printed and pick one to start looking through this month. There are some great ideas in them and I want to implement what I can.
I hope I have inspired you to write and implement some of your own goals! What are your goals for April? Tell us some of them in the comments below!!
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