we feel less than worthy…
we feel unimportant…
we feel like we could be doing “more”.
We are told we can do it all and we *should* do it all because we should not be *just* a mother.
The culture and society we live in today does not value motherhood as it should. The modern culture values our careers, our material goods/possessions and public recognition as being the most important. Now I am not saying careers are not important and I am not saying we should not be recognized for our achievements, but I am saying THE most important role we will ever play is that of a mother.
About a month ago I finished reading the book Momnipotent by Danielle Bean. In this book she does an excellent job giving practical advice, honest encouragement and hope to women and mothers everywhere.(I highly recommend this book to all mothers!!).
In this book she says this-
“Motherhood is the most important role any woman ever plays on earth. Not because women are reproductive machines, not because women cannot excel at everything from achieving Hollywood fame to serving on the Supreme Court, but because it is in our motherhood, in the reception and bearing of new life, that we reflect the creative power of God himself. This is a privileged role to play, one through which we achieve the most important things human beings can ever accomplish. If we ridicule and belittle the role of motherhood, the very place where women exercise their greatest strengths and find meaning and purpose for their greatest gifts, how can we expect happy and fulfilled individuals to result?”
Sounds pretty worthy to me 🙂
Here are three things we might say to ourselves and then what we need to remind ourselves of:
- I am *just* a mom…..instead try– I helped (and am helping) create a miracle…..who else can say they helped God perform one of his greatest miracles- the miracle of creation…a baby…a child. And once born still helping to grow and develop that creation into the person he/she is to become….
*”THE most important person on earth is a mother. She can not claim the honor of having built Notre Dame Cathedral. She need not. She has built something more magnificent than any cathedral- a dwelling for an immortal soul, the tiny perfection of her baby’s body. The angels have not been blessed with such a grace. They cannot share in God’s creative miracle to bring new saints to Heaven. Only a human mother can. Mothers are closer to God the Creator than any other creatures. God joins forces with mothers in performing this act of creation…What on God’s good earth is more glorious than this: to be a mother?” -Joseph Cardinal Mindszenty
- I do the same mundane and routine tasks everyday. How can I really be making a difference? The constant diaper changes, sweeping, washing, laundry, picking up. How can these things really be important. I should be out making a name for myself….instead try thinking of it from your kids’ perspective– “My mom is always there for me…she gives me constant love, hugs, kisses, reads my favorite stories, she takes care of me…I know I can count on her, I trust her therefore I am learning trust, love, compassion, how to take care of and serve others…I will never forget my Mom…she is making me who I am!”
*Hey mom- I think you are making a name for yourself!!
- I want to change the world. How can I really be doing that sitting here isolated and hidden in my home with these little people. I want to impact the world and I am not…instead try– “I am changing the world! These little people are growing up and learning and I am their teacher. They are the world and I am influencing them beyond what I even realize. These children are gifts to me and my gift to my children is me at my best (or trying to be!), teaching them, choosing them and helping them in their journey of life.”
*”What a child doesn’t receive, he can seldom later give.” So true….how much more of an impact on the world can you make than by being a mother?
It is hard not to get caught up in the ‘you’re just a mom’ conversations our society likes to throw out there these days. It is easy to start feeling like you are less than what you *should* be (or at least according to modern culture), but all mothers need to realize they are performing the greatest roles of their lives.
You helped create and grow life (whether in the womb or outside of it as in adoption), you are making a difference, you are changing the world and you ARE worthy…so very worthy! Without mothers none of us would be here <3
What statements do you think as a mother about yourself? How can you change those thoughts to help you realize your worth as a mother?